Try Active Listening —

The Problem with Conversation

I love conversations! They're a primary mode of human interaction. But in a conversation, we take turns waiting for our chance to speak. We listen to the other person, construct some kind of response — or just an intention to respond — and then we wait for a pause in which we can reply. But there is another way to interact, where you can feel truly heard — maybe for the first time!

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A Magical Experience

In the early 2000s, I started seeing a psychiatrist. I expected him to ask a lot of questions, offer observations, and bring years of therapeutic expertise to bear on my problems. ​

 

He didn't do that. Instead, he just listened to me talk, for an hour at a time, without interrupting. He would only speak if I stalled out, or if some point required further explanation.

 

It was magical.

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Breakthroughs are Commonplace

Without the back-and-forth of normal conversation, I chased down thoughts and had ideas that were completely new to me. Unburdened with the need to make space for his thoughts or feelings, I learned things about my feelings, my history, my life, and my desires that I had never known before.​

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That experience I had in expensive therapy is available for you too at a much more affordable price. If you are a Verbal Processor — someone who best works out their ideas through talking — it's especially powerful.

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You Talk, I Listen. Try it Today!

The idea behind active listening is simple. You will talk, I will listen — with intelligence, respect, minimal interruption, and my undivided attention. I never give advice unless you ask for it. 

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You owe it to yourself to give it a try. Click below for your first session!

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